Not really a write up... But here's what I did.
Take off the strut bar (if you have one) and remove the intake pipe.
On the back of the engine, you'll see the 12 exhaust manifold bolts. 13mm
Smart phone camera with a light is a life saver.
Unfortunately, there are studs and nuts, not bolts. Some of the studs came out with the nuts, others just came out as nuts.
This made things challenging, because I didn't want to damage the studs trying to remove them. So instead, I crawled under the car and disconnected all of the exhaust hangers. This allowed the manifold to slide far enough back that I could get the old gasket off and put the new gasket on. You could more easily disconnect the DP, but if you've ever experienced the DP bolts backing out, you know not to mess with these once they're secure.
Here's all that was left of my old gasket, pretty clear why I had a leak.
Nice shiny 3 layer gasket to go in!
Not sure what the torque specs are for the nuts, just put them on by hand until they felt secure but not impossible to remove if I ever need to do this again.
No more leak, no more farting noise, and the turbo spools up a little quicker since ALL of the exhaust now passes through the turbines.