No one is forcing anyone to by an EV. The government is changing the incentives to bring us to the point that EVs are palatable to everyone...and it's in our best interest to convert over, cars are about 30% of our greenhouse emissions in the US, in order to meet treaty obligations we have to cut back on engines. EVs will get better, people will chose them, the incentives just help push the process along...and the oil companies are still receiving bigger incentives. Engines won't be going away quite yet, and that 20 year old car will still be allowed on the road (as long as it's legal of course).
And, really, most people would be better off in an EV...the maintenance costs are less (on average), the car drives well enough, and there's no cost for gas and almost no consumables. Add in the ability to have a "full" car every morning, improve the recharging network issues (which will happen over five years), and increase green energy usage, and it's overall much better than everyone driving around in gas cars, even efficient ones (which we all know isn't the case, everyone wants an SUV).
As for electricity...there is motion towards more efficient solar systems and getting them on more roofs, at least in states that aren't influenced by the fossil fuel industry. As more people get solar, that means less money being spent on electricity...we have panels and every mile I have driven my new V60 since Sunday night when I got it home has been free. That will be true of all my commuting during the week, which with my old car cost roughly $1250 per year (with a lowball $5 per gallon which doesn't exist in CA anymore). By itself, that pays for the cost of the solar panel system we have over its lifetime, and that doesn't include all of the other free electricity (we generate more than we use, by a lot). Really, we should be incentivizing houses having a solar system, including a storage battery, it's really the way to go for power...that would distribute the load and leave plenty of capacity when it's necessary. They also are trying to address all of the aspects of this, that was a large part of the infrastructure bill.
It's not a simple transition, but building up our current energy infrastructure wasn't easy either, and it has lots of problems. We really should be making a long term, 20 year plan for the conversion to build a new electrical system, but that's not possible for many reasons in our country. We need to make the transition though, all the greenhouse gas we are dumping into the atmosphere is ruining the planet's habitability, and what's there is already baked in for the next few thousand years. The Earth isn't done adjusting yet to what we've added...it's like when you turn the thermostat up, it takes time for things to warm up, so the Earth still has to catch up to what we've done (and are still doing) to the atmosphere. If we keep going we really will trash the planet, eventually the Earth will go through what Venus did and end up like that, simply because the Sun slowly warms up over time...dumping a bunch of greenhouse gasses into the atmosphere just accelerates the process, and it won't take much to undo the balance, especially since the warming is happening too fast for evolution to allow adaptation. It's going to be painful, but it's also necessary if we care about humanity surviving the next few thousand years.