They sound like some nice cars guys. My wife and I are planning to try for kids next spring, and once we have them, I think we're going to very seriously consider the XC90 (we were only thinking stationwagons up until then). Having driven it and seen the versatility of the interior, it looks like the ultimate.
Interesting that you guys both are getting T-6 models with the 3rd row. Volvo said most of their pre orders are specced that way. Surprisingly few are opting for the smaller motor.