I see a huge difference in "B" mode in pre-ER Volvo PHEVs vs. ER Volvo PHEVs. I test-drove a ton of different pre-ER Volvo PHEVs and was so disappointed that I never could buy one, despite desperately wanting to, because I found the drivetrains and response and range so poor. But the ERs are completely different. Pre-ER, there was no one-pedal driving. I really was also rather anti-one-pedal driving from my limited experiences in test-driving various BEVs from Teslas to Volvos/Polestars. But once I got my 2022 ER, I immediately starting experimenting with the one-pedal driving and quickly came to really prefer it over non-one-pedal driving -- so much so that I keep it in B all the time, even when at highway speeds. When I drive non-one-pedal cars (or my XC60 in D mode), I now get frustrated!
You do indeed learn to use the one-pedal slowing down to maximum advantage. At highway speeds, it slows down very gradually until you get to lower speeds, at which time it kicks in more strongly. A good one-pedal user is much safer, I think, than one who has to depend solely on the brake pedal to slow down or stop; I'm convinced of that after driving more than 5 months now in one-pedal mode. I get much better regen with B mode than in D mode. Note that I drive about 75% of my miles in all-electric ("Pure") mode, meaning mostly below 45 mph in city/suburban traffic -- for which B is perfect, and indeed Volvo recommends driving daily in B mode for urban driving. But I've gone that further step in experimenting with D vs. B when driving at highway speeds, and am not convinced that D is better (and may be worse) at highway speeds that are not stop-and-go.
In reading this thread, I've also come to reflect more on the concept of "coasting", as I drive in B mode at highway speeds -- wondering really when I'd ever need to "coast" without one-pedal driving. Yeah, you go downhill and take your foot off the accelerator in D mode, but in "B" mode with the right touch (which becomes second nature after a few weeks of full-time use), I find coasting to be easier and more natural in B mode. In D mode you'll often speed up too much going down a hill, which can only be rectified by stepping on the brake pedal, while in B mode, you just let up on the accelerator a little and maintain speed. And in ACC, I wonder if B might also not be better than D mode for better regen and less brake use.
Note that regen is a much faster charger of your traction battery than is AC charging from the wall; I often get 1-2 miles of range back in my battery going down a steep hill on an expressway here (daily route to work) in about a minute of driving, while charging in my garage will take 20-40 minutes to get that much charge back in the battery. So I seriously don't see the reason to ever drive in D mode with an ER PHEV. Non-ER Volvos do not operate this way -- regen is not as profound by a long shot, and there's no real one-pedal driving. Night-and-day difference.